re: VISABILITY

VISIBILITY.  Part of being seen as having done the thing that's hard for you, is someone witnessing that it was hard for you. And I don't mean telling the story later, I mean allowing yourself to be visible through the struggle. 

For me, that can feel pretty uncomfortable or even downright bad, but I also know this: Acknowledging the struggles on your journey and allowing other people to know about them is what makes you credible, relatable, a trusted resource, a leader. 

Visibility isn't just about how you look or having a public presence or speaking up in a meeting. It includes things like:

• How do you feel when someone sees you make a mistake?

• What do you think about yourself when things don't go according to plan?

• Do you judge yourself more when others are watching?

• What do you assume other people will think if they witness you not being perfect?

• How comfortable are you with the levels of being seen, witnessed, known?

  
  

Visibile = Vulnerable and while vulnerability might feel like a risk, especially when you expect to be judged or misunderstood, it often provides the opposite outcome of what we fear. 

Instead of assuming incompetence, you allow others to see effort. Instead of questioning your credibility, they see how you think, adapt, and respond. What feels like exposure is often experienced as honesty, confidence, and leadership. Being visible through the struggle doesn’t weaken trust and respect, it builds it.

I encourage you to experiment with this idea by replacing your performative “perfection” with honesty and presence!

Here are some TAKE ACTION STRATEGIES you can try this week:

When you’re afraid of being judged…

Try this: When something is harder than expected, name it plainly: “This is taking more effort than I thought.”

Why: Naming effort reduces assumptions and softens judgment. (even if you only acknowledge it to yourself!)

When you feel pressure to have it all figured out…

Try this: When you don’t know, say so or ask one honest question instead of pretending you do.

Why: Curiosity builds trust faster than false certainty.

When you want to disappear after a mistake…

Try this: When something goes wrong, resist over-explaining. Acknowledge it once and stay engaged.

Why: Presence builds credibility more than self-defense.

When you’re ready to grow but don’t feel ready to be seen…

Try this: When you’re learning something new, show up anyway, without apologies

Why: Confidence is built by showing up and doing it anyway, not by waiting until you feel ready.

Friends, If you are in the middle and it's messy…

If you're at a turning point and don't know what to do…

If you're new at something and not doing your (future) best but you're showing up anyway... 

I hope you'll remember that the showing up matters. The being seen matters. The asking for help matters. And you're not alone.

Wishing you a week of practicing visibility through the vulnerability!

We're in this together,

Your Coach Candace

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